Pushy People

A strange topic to choose to write about in the middle of a pandemic but random is my middle name. Why I should think about them now when they are nowhere in my vicinity? I don't have any particular pushy person in mind while writing just an amalgam of different experiences.

As an introvert since my teen years when youthful exuberance was kicked out of me by a variety of disappointing life experiences I must have created some kind of magnetic force field that encouraged pushy people to approach and start pushing. Docile people or soft arses seem to create a chagrin in the alpha pushy person. Their polar opposite personality trait cannot be left alone to be like the cartoon character Droopy. They must conform to the pushy person's agenda.

Of course it is not just people that can be pushy, environments can also be from call centres to factory floors. Business leads people to push people about and you can't get pushier than some politicians. Jess Phillips comes across as a pushy person. They want to get things done and they want to be the person in the limelight getting the credit. Our Lord & Saviour Jeremy Corbyn had the type of personality that drove pushy people to distraction. John Mann, pushy person extraordinaire had to take it out on JC's confidante Ken Livingstone. That was the behaviour of a bully and you can see it in the Barron Mann's facial features. A great deal of anger directed at the wrong people.

Pushy people can be small people and they can be tall people. They are often making up for some deficiency in their character make up and they fall into the trap of over compensating and don't realise how obvious it is to outside observers. A pushy person is not always a bully but it is on that spectrum. A people pleaser is a target for a pushy person and even if the people pleaser has been trying out boundary defining techniques, the moment they drop their guard and please the pushy person, all be it momentarily, the pushy personage will not forget. They will remember like an elephant that they managed to push you over. That is how a pushy person gets their strength, little victories and don't be fooled by this lockdown. Pushy people will be writing the names of people pleasers on post it notes around their laptops and computer terminals because pushy people are organised. You get sucked into the forcefield of a pushy person and you think it's all natural and very often they are charming and humorous but they have swallowed the 'Art of War' and like Pacman they have swallowed more people pleasers than the people pleaser has had hot dinners. 

So once the Pandemic has eased a little look out for the pushy people. They will be out of their garden gates like greyhounds out of a trap looking for  people pleasers to push around and don't be fooled 'passive aggressive' types like myself can be pushy types but they operate in reverse where they use their depression and melancholia to manipulate others to do their bidding. It is the introvert's way of pushing people about, not complying.