I will begin in civilised terms because I presume that is how you started off but maybe you were born into a bullying household into a threatening and violent environment. We learn what we see around us of course and then off you trot to school to take out your learnt behaviour on others. That's where the problems begin because you are now affecting other people and you have no right to do that. Your bullying is reinforced at home by your parents who perhaps were bullies themselves but as responsible adults we will deny that we were ever bullies ourselves. Is imitation bullying? when you imitate somebodies face and mannerisms? I suppose it is well in that case, I was a bully because that was something I did.
At your age it is very difficult for you to understand what you are doing, you do not have the emotional awareness and maturity of an adult. Adults bully because they feel fearful and threatened. Children bully for many reasons but the chief one being profound unhappiness and you want to share that unhappiness with others. Your life is a misery in some way and you want others to feel your pain and so the projection begins. Asking you to stop isn't going to stop you! Threatening you in some way will only make things worse but if you were to sit down with a crystal ball and look into the future through it and see how your actions will impact your victim way into the future, you might, you might just stop. Adults who suffer with mental illness were very often bullied at school and that school was unable to protect the children in its care. Bullying is pervasive and insidious and it hides in the cracks in the walls, it will shout your name and belittle you because you have lost your self worth through the actions of a stranger. The bullying is perpetuated by your own brain. Your own mind takes over from the physical bully of your childhood and you then become your own bully.
Children tend to live in the present moment. Everything is immediate and the summer holidays are long. Perhaps you can escape your physical bully in these times but the term begins again and the creeping dread returns to your stomach and mind. You see the bully again and the bully knows the power they have over you.
School Anti-Bullying Policies are not worth the paper that they are written on. The job of the school is to bully you into sitting and passing exams, they cannot possibly be expected to provide any pastoral care. You are on your own kid! Bullying is a choice. Perhaps you feel that it is some kind of addiction or compulsion because of your physical size or temperament, that when you see someone smaller or weaker you just have to go over and bully them. The law of the jungle, the concrete jungle? But you are not in the jungle, your victim goes home at the end of the day just like you but they don't sleep as soundly as you. You are smug and contented after your power trip but you have started a chain of anxiety and fear in another person that if not addressed can and will lead to mental health problems in later life.
I repeat again
"YOU HAVE NO RIGHT TO DO THIS"
Please, unhappy human, please find another way to release your unhappiness and aggression. Start a Martial Art, Orienteering maybe or better still sit your parent down on the settee and ask them "Why are you a bully?"
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