Sex & Death in Wales

 Sex and Death in Wales is probably like Sex & Death most places else in the Western Hemisphere. It is locked away, illicit, underground. It isn't talked about until it actually happens and is quite a shock in both cases.

Apparently the French have been at it! In the Torygraph another one of these scientific studies show that philandering which is a posh word for cheating is common place.

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worldnews/europe/france/10587153/French-study-shows-a-majority-of-men-and-a-third-of-women-cheat.html

As a confirmed singleton I can only wonder out loud why do you get married in the first place if your intention is to cheat on your spouse. Well obviously you don't get married with the intention of cheating but after seven years of marriage you have an itch that needs scratching. Those itches are being scratched in Travelodges and Premier Hotels across the land as I type this. We're all at it apparently.  Well we are if we're French.

We are all dying as well but we never talk about it until it happens. I am obsessed with death. Anybody else? I think I am so obsessed because I am so disappointed with my life. I am disappointed with my life because I am not getting any... I mean enough sex. Is sex a euphemism for love & intimacy I wonder or is it the act that can facilitate it?  This must be a difficult post for women to read (Hello women, waves hand!) because as blokes we are led to believe that women don't actually enjoy sex. That they only participate in it as a favour to the man. We blokes in small towns across the UK of a certain generation learnt about women's physiology and needs from a certain kind of magazine that was available in shops and sold in brown paper bags. From the start human sexuality is taboo, a mystery, something that you have to search for online. Trouble is, this education is from a man's point of view so its bound to be a bit oppressive because men in a patriarchal society are oppressive.  In the gender wars of cheating and mistrust one thing that men and women have in common is that they are both going to die. Maybe this fact explains why men are generally keener and more insistent on the sexual act, because they know they are going to die sooner. They have a shorter life expectancy than women. 

Sex has been a lot in the news recently especially in relation to 1970's DJs and Celebrities. There is a lot of condemnation and 'burn the witch' (The Irony) type statements. Paedophile is perhaps the worst accusation or slur that can be levelled at anybody. Is nobody actually interested in why these men committed these crimes? What was in their upbringing and psychology that led them to these actions and crimes. Or is it just best to lock them away and gloat?

I actually saw a heavy set man in a black coat today sneaking a peek, in a what the butler saw type fashion, in the window of Anne Summers, was he looking at the tantalising lingerie mes amies or was he looking at himself in the shop window? What's so strange about that? Well he was wearing a Dog Collar ( as in what Vicars and Ministers wear) not as in some kinky bondage attire. (You see I had to add the word kinky) He looked more like a bouncer than a vicar. Perhaps he was God's Bouncer? Sex & death are fiercely intertwined in Religion. Can abstinence and celibacy be a good idea if it leads to sexual abuse? The Pope running a seminary on 'family values', so a single celibate man can tell families what they can and can't do! Use a condom for 'feck's sake! And we believe this bullshit.