What are we going to do with anger?

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Following on from yesterday's blog post I thought I would continue today with the theme of anger. Forgive me if I include hypothetical questions again throwing them out into the ether like stones upon a calm pond. Forgive? that's a bigee. Why should we forgive somebody who has wronged us?

Good question batman, there are two schools of thought on this one.

I'm sure that you can think of one person now that brings the juices of anger and resentment up into you. The image of that person, the thought of that person stoking the embers of hatred within you. What can you do? Shout stop at the thoughts. I've had that advice. That makes the thoughts worse because you have verbalised a strong emotion towards them. We are told that hate is a strong word but emotions are also strong.

What stops people enacting out their hate and revenge on others? The lack of a gun in the corner of the room? They can get a knife because they have been dissed. They have been disrespected.

Humiliation is a feeling and emotion that plays into anger along with fear and resentment. You can be branded and labelled all sorts of things for the thoughts that you have and the opinions that you espouse. These however are your often 'undeveloped' emotions. They are condemned by those who embrace the full panoply of human expression and emotion. 

You have been hiding in your room or the favourite diss is in your 'Mum's basement.' How do you come out from there? The Japanese have an answer.

The top comment under this video which has 7k likes is this

  ""They aren't Hikkomori, they're clinically depressed individuals in a society that ignores mental health issues and treats human beings as cogs in a machine" 

So for Japan read UK and USA. Society didn't take Jake Davison's mental health seriously. The mother who he shot had been appealing desperately for help. The help didn't come so he took to social media and forums to make himself feel heard and included. A sad state of affairs which led on to a tragic state of affairs affecting so many lives in that community and the reverberations can be felt worldwide. 

What happens after such events for those not directly affected? We pause, we are more reflective but then the passage of time encourages us to get the broom from the cupboard and sweep the collective unconscious under the carpet.

What is twitter if it isn't the collective unconscious? the daily ticker taping of peoples' unhappiness and resentment where they feel they are not heard. They feel heard after a few likes and retweets and in that respect it has a cathartic effect but social media can be a neutral but it is the way that we as individuals approach it. If we approach it with hate, hate is going to come back at us.

There are many ways to deal with anger but we are not taught about emotional wellness in school. What do we do with the feelings once we have been bullied? Where does that fear, anger and resentment go to?

It goes inside. It ferments like a chemistry lesson experiment and it blows in later life.

I would like to see something like 'mattress therapy' nationalised and freely available where specially trained police and social workers instead of deciding who gets a firearm and who gets taken out of a dysfunctional family unit stand behind a mattress which they are holding and the 'angry' person comes into the room and kicks seven bells out of the mattress. They are encouraged to shout and kick and scream the house down to get their anger, their humiliation, their stress, their frustration, their resentment out in a safe space.

Instead of investing in riot shields police forces should be going down to their municipal tips and retrieving the mattresses that people have discarded and investing in boxing gloves so that there may be a combination of Muhammad Ali and Ghandi's philosophies in full flow.

So that we don't end up with generations of angry young (men) who go on to become bitter, tired, cynical and passive aggressive older men.

There are empty factory units and shops across this Great United Kingdom of ours. Lets us confiscate the guns and knives and let us offer mattress therapy where we can kick seven shades of shit out of an old mattress. Surely better that, than allowing anger and resentment to fester leading toddlers and Dads to be shot in cold blood.